There seems to be a lot of negativity floating around about relationships, why they fail, trust issues, cheating and so many other issues related to loving someone. I am not in a position to give advice on how to sustain your relationship or how to be successful in one because I am single and therefore, it wouldn’t be a fair piece of advice.
Sometimes it feels as though the world looks at you differently when you are single. People like to question you as if to say, something is wrong with you. It does bother me a little but then I have to remind myself of who I am before letting the opinions of other people get to me.
I have to remind myself that I have dated people for the wrong reasons before and it never turned out fruitful. I wanted to be in a relationship because I felt the pressure of everyone being in one and them questioning me, as to why I wasn’t in one. I’m at that age now where friends are getting married, having babies or are in serious relationships. This gets you thinking about your own life, when you see that others have found their soul mate and you haven’t even found someone you like enough to take on a date.
On the other hand I also have friends who are in and out of relationships quicker than they change their undies and even this leaves you with a negative vibe of what’s out there.
After doing things my way for a long time, I had to go back to my roots, as a Christian, I am done forcing things. I am done making exuberant efforts to be with guys that aren’t willing to even pick up the phone and call me. I am done trying to be a positive person in relationships while the other person is keen on focusing on the negatives. I am done settling for scraps in fear that, that is as good as it is going to get. I’m also done dealing with those who think they are too good for me or above certain things in life. Love shouldn’t be that hard and complicated.
That’s not to say it’s easy either but the good should definitely outweigh the bad in most circumstances.
So if you’re a single person its important to know that you are enough. Yes it’s not an ideal situation but if you have a little bit of faith, know that it’s a temporary situation. The hard bit is we do not know how long temporary is, we just have to trust in God’s timing to bring us something that we could have never attracted with our own human will. It’s also important to be happy for other people when they are in love instead of rolling your eyes and thinking about how long your going to have to wait till you find your ideal partner. And finally, I say have fun with it. Your situation is not for anybody to try and figure out or understand. You don’t owe anybody a logical explanation as to why you are single. It is between you and your God.
That doesn’t mean the comments and opinions will fall back. Nope. They may even get louder and more frequent but use the single phase to get to know yourself better. Knowing yourself and working on becoming a better person, will allow you to eliminate almost instantly the bad seeds that try and sow themselves in your life. So to all my single ladies, (and men) here is a little extract for you to keep in the back of your mind when the going gets tough. Your beliefs will determine whom this letter is from…
Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively, but I say “No.” Not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with being alone, with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me, will you be ready to have the intensely personal and unique relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with anyone or anything else until you are united with Me. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and start allowing Me to give you the most thrilling plan in existence – one that you cannot even imagine. I want you to have the best. Please, allow Me to bring it to you.
You must keep watching Me expecting the greatest of things. Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I AM. Keep listening and learning the things that I will tell you. Just wait. That’s all. Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things others have or that I have given them. Don’t look at the things you think you want. Just keep looking up to Me or you will miss what I want to show you. And then, when you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you have dreamed of.
You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working even at this moment to have you both ready at the same time), until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I have prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me. This is Perfect Love.
And Dear One, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer. Know that I love you utterly. Believe it and be satisfied.
I don’t know who wrote this but I sure did love it and I hope it helps someone out there.