This week many of us are back at Uni, unfortunately not everyone may be feeling motivated. Rather, let me just speak on my behalf, because I haven’t been feeling very motivated lately and I’m sure we all know that being in this space is not so great.
When I am in this space, very few things bring me solace. Writing and reading are just a few but rarely do they solve my problems or provide solid answers to my questions if I just use my mind as a trash can and read without actually absorbing or applying any of it to my life.
So this thing called motivation, why is it so hard to come by and why is it that sometimes motivation can be easily intimidated when your personal life is disturbed by life events that aren’t so great? These are questions I am yet to figure out or perhaps learn how to just cope without having all the answers. Anyways, the purpose of this post was to remind myself of a few things about life in order to try and keep my spirits high when all isn’t going my way:
On feeling insecure
“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” –Nelson Mandela
Achieving my dreams
“God can dream a bigger dream for me, for you, than you could ever dream for yourself. When you’ve worked as hard and done as much and strived and tried and given and pled and bargained and hoped…surrender. When you have done all that you can do, and there’s nothing left for you to do, give it up. Give it up to that thing that is greater than yourself, and let it then become a part of the flow.” ~Oprah
Taking care of me first
Even if my heart wanted to I can’t treat other people right, or be of service to my friends, family or anyone for that matter if I am not okay. I need to look after me first and to some this may sound like a very selfish thing to do but I’ve come to understand it is not. With the right intentions for putting yourself first, it’s actually a great thing.
Relationship expert Iyanla Vanzant says, it’s not necessarily a good thing to put yourself last.
It’s self-full to be first, to be as good as possible to you. To take care of you, keep you whole and healthy. That doesn’t mean you disregard everything and everyone. But you want to come with your cup full. You know: ‘My cup runneth over.’ What comes out of the cup is for y’all. What’s in the cup is mine. But I’ve got to keep my cup full.